Success is Sweetest

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Hello! I’m Janice. I’m a life coach based in New York.

I help ARTISTS, ACTORS, MAKERS, and SEEKERS start, test, tweak and finish amazing life projects.

This is where you get to translate your amazingness into a tangible, real-world project or life-changing experience. Something so fresh & original, you won’t believe it came out of YOU.

(Hey, so you want to act on Broadway, bike ride through Thailand, or build an Empire? Totally reasonable.)

This is my online home, where all the good stuff happens.

Ha. Who am I kidding? The good stuff happens offline, in real time. But this is where you can get to know me, find out how to WORK & PLAY with me, sign up for NOTES FROM THE TRAIL, and grab a free tool (or two).

I’m so happy you’re here.
Because now we get to make things.
And making things is the sweetest.

xo.

jlh

A Small Dose Of Sweet Things

A Beautiful Day – Project

Positive Psychologist, Martin E. P. Seligman set out to understand the qualities that define the good life and how we can use our signature strengths to obtain abundant gratification (activities we like doing) in the main realms of our life.

One of (the good life) tests was to design a beautiful day from soup to nuts – and to live that day and report how we feel while including the following questions:

Part 1: Were you successful in living that day? Why or why not? Were all of the qualities of your beautiful day truly beautiful? Why or why not? What would you now change about your perception of a beautiful day?

Part 2: Is there any action you might take to move toward achieving a “beautiful day” on a more regular basis? How does your conception of a “beautiful day” fit in with your life’s goals?

I play it as loud and as bold as possible ~ James Victor

Lets face it. Life can be unfair and complicated and for evolutionary reasons it’s easy for our brains to zero in on the ugly-messy-parts. Most of us are not good at dwelling on happy events and if what we focus on grows, then cultivating a few beautiful days makes good-life sense.

A great place to start is by defining what makes for a beautiful day. If you need a fun prompt try making an AN AWESOME LIFE LIST.

Whatever you do, get it all on paper: Include other people, music, nature, themes, adventures, projects, art, food, movements, goals, life-missions and tasks.

Breezy.

Now divide and sort and curate your list into 7 – 30 daily activities and experiences. Keep it within the realm of possibility and stick with things you can do right now.

Here’s my sample list:

1. Sipping (in bed) a cup of dark french press coffee
2. Meditation (Thich Nhat Hanh + Peace is Every Step)
3. A productive days work
a. Connecting to others (with feeling).
b. Furthering the action (serving constructively).
c. Connecting others to others (community building).
d. Putting that thing out in the world (delivering it all).
4. Project making
photography, writing, retreats, labs, and happiness stuff
5. Learning
a. Going deeper with a subject that I already know (developing mastery).
b. Or learning something new altogether (I’m obsessed with creative photographers and instagram).
6. Playing in nature (bike riding or hiking in the woods with my pals is a happiness booster).
7. Enjoying a great conversation over a good meal (hello dinner party or table for two).
8. Savoring art of all shapes and flavors (attending a play, a movie, a dance concert, a lecture, a gallery opening … you name it, I’m in).
9. Star gazing (sweet).
10. Good nights sleep (bliss).

Okay, now it’s your turn.

Make a list, pick a date, and go out and have a great day.

If you can’t do it all – split your focus into beautiful (morning, afternoon, and night) activities.

The good life comes from focusing on what you care about.

Nothing is off limits.

And by using the q’s in (part 1 and part 2) and deliberately fine tuning your interests and teasing out the things that are meaningful to you, the sooner you can make the best of your day(s).

Go ahead, make it a stunner and have yourself a beautiful day.

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ON CREATIVITY: A-Z Tapas Sized Notes

A is for AVANTE GARD. Leading the ranks and pushing against the norm.

B is for BACKGROUND MUSIC. Epic Aretha scratched together with Leonard Cohen and early morning birdsong.

C is for CONTESTS. We get ready. Suss out the competition. Share our best work. Learn some new rules. And go the extra mile.

D is for the DRESSER. To all behind the scene stylists, personal assistants, confidantes, multitaskers, and repairmen. Huz-zah!

E is for the EDGE. Get closer.

F is for FOOD. Relish all sweet and savory experiences.

G is for GARDENS. A vibrant green expanse of purpose and pleasure.

H is for The HIGHLINE. Rescuing a decaying structure. Overcoming bureacratic hurdles. And transforming an urban eyesore into a world class green escape.

I is for INSPIRE WIRE. This is a visual and inspirational prompt. I have one hanging on the wall directly across from my bed. It includes a dozen 4×6 framed photographs shot over a summer in a beginning photo class. A colorful and happy reminder of my love for this season and the journey of learning something new. One morning in the middle of the winter, I woke up feeling deeply uncertain, and there it was urging me to create.

J is for JANICE (shameless marketing)

K is for KICKing @$$. Whenever possible move into high gear.

L is for LIBERACE.

M is for MAKING STUFF UP. Everyone is doing it. I had a coach. The best in the world, who said, if you don’t know for sure, make it up. Not very encouraging when you’re paying someone big bucks. But I quickly learned that when making sh*t up you have to rely on every possible soul stirring resource and impulse – you have to be willing to let go and to use what’s in front of you. When I’m creating, whether its soup or an entrance on stage, making stuff up, pushes me to deliver a fresh take on everything I already know.

N is for NOVELTY, NARCISM (a healthy dose) and NEVER-ever-GIVE UP.

O is for OBSERVATION. Ease drop. Study and listen.

P is for PHILIPPE PETIT. A French high wire artist born in 1939 who followed a calling of the romantic sort and walked the wire (actually a steel cable a quarter of a mile in the sky across the 130-foot gap separating the towers.) Spell-binding, operatic, timeless, profound, impish, from another planet and beautiful. The New York Times adds to this descriptive list, by saying, Petite makes us all feel that ‘extraordinary’ is within reach.

Q is for QUESTIONS. Use them as mining tools.

R is for RETROSPECTIVES. Two of my favorite retrospectives were centered around Sajit Ray’s movies and Sommerset Maughman’s writing. I looked back to move forward and discovered a comprehensive collection of beautiful stories and a broad cultural and social ideology.

S is for STORE FRONT WINDOWS. Recently, I’ve noticed personal statements, such as “sorry for the window display, I’ve been uninspired lately.’

T is for TENSION. When it’s present treat it with respect. When it’s absent break dance.

U is for UNPLUGGED. In a wired nation, the distractions of the world wide web can become mind-boggling and time consuming. To unplug means your attention is on less virtual and more tangible stuff. Sit against a tree, read a book made of paper, engage in small talk.

V is for VENDING MACHINES. I-pods, art, bicycle parts, travel supplies, snacks, newspapers, umbrellas, flowers, gold to go, weddings, stickers, medicine, and laundry soap – all neatly packed into a 72 x 35 small biz foot print.

W is for WARDROBE. I ooze appreciation for those who wear their imagination on their sleeves – and in reverence to Georgia O’keeffe’s simple black frock, ‘wardrobe’ wants to be ‘the uniform’, but ‘U’ was already taken.

X is for the X FACTOR and celebrating the unknown variable.

Y is for YES and believing in an outside chance.

Z is for ZHO. (Sounds like Joe) a cross between a yak and a cow. Say what? In art its a mashup or a hybrid. Combine two different ingredients to make one singular cool thing.

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